In a marriage both spouses have their separate world of dreams and expectations. This is not strange, it only goes to show that they are both unique and different. What also happens sometimes is that each spouse can be unaware of the other's dreams and desires. Such great desires unmet day in and day out lead to a lot frustration. The best thing you can do is to first come to understand that your spouse might be unaware of your desires or of the impact such unfulfilled desires have on you and subsequently on your marriage.

Coming to know that marriage is for life, it is fulfilling to know, your dreams, desires and pleasures can be catered for in such a dear relationship. Fellowshipping together would do a great job but definitely not after your strength is spent and you are tired at the end of the day. Plan regular days off, just the two of you; eat, play, talk and spend a lot of time devoted exclusively to each other. Talk about things that make you happy, the things you love to see happen more often, as well as areas where you would love to see changes. Take turns in listening and trying to understanding one another. Tell your spouse what they might not be aware of but will help in loving and understanding you, don't do all the talking, do a lot of listening and find out what are your spouse's goals and strongest desires are.

Don't try to get answers to everything in one go, things might not change for a while, but be willing to revisit issues again in a friendly atmosphere, let your spouse come to know how you define success and happiness in your relationship.

Ask God for His wisdom, freely express your love to each other. You want to look back in 40, 50, 60 years time and know it's been fun because you have helped each other to realise and experience your dreams and desires over and over again.

Everyone desires a relationship where dreams are expressed and hopes are realised.

God bless you and we love you