Marriage
is the strongest and most powerful union man can enter into, that explains
why keeping it strong and exciting can be very challenging. In your marriage
you must seek to be in harmony in opinion, will and action. This is not automatic
neither does it happen over night, it takes time and effort.
Money
is one very important and crucial area in which this must happen, you may
have found out that your opinion or reaction to money differs from that of
your spouse’s, this only proves that this is an area you need to work on;
avoid overruling or vetoing it wont help. Leaving your spouse to do what he/she
wants will not work either, this only leads to later frustration.
A
good place to start is to spend good time talking about this, be prepared
to listen and seek to understand, this will help especially when you know
nobody’s opinion is more important than the other’s. Above all, pray about
this regularly and agree to make God’s word final authority. God’s word is
the ultimate wisdom. Whatever you decide to do, nobody wins, you both will
benefit and God will be glorified in your marriage.
What
divides you? Is it money, in-laws, sex, career or religion? You can apply
this same method to every one of these issues. For you, to be in agreement
with each other is not an option, without it you can’t work together.
Let
nothing divide you. Any couple divided against each other will not stand.
In one accord you cannot be defeated.