Overcoming Sexual Lust
There is a continuous battle on earth among all human beings over what habits will dominate them. The world is full of numerous desires which can be divided into two main parts: Godly desires and ungodly desires. Everyone comes into this life innocent not knowing the difference between good and evil, so that even though a baby goes on to do something wrong it is usually not with a conscious desire to do evil.
There is a constant battle going on, satan is tenaciously seeking to take control of the soul of as many people as possible, he wants to rule and dominate man.
The strategy he uses is to get into and influence virtually everything available on the face of the earth. Even though most things look unharmful, underlying them is a dangerous scheme of satan to take over the soul of man.
As in the case of most advertisements, you will realise there is usually another and stronger motive that is behind them.
The dictionary defines lust as having an eager, passionate, and especially inordinate or sinful desire for the gratification of sexual appetite or of covetousness.
Sexual lust is sin, it robs man of a passionate love for God. Your heart is made to either love God or other things, you cannot do both wholeheartedly. God wants you to have an intimate relationship with Him. He has given His only Son so that you would realise how wholly committed He is to you, and therefore invites you to give Him all of your heart.
In the world, there are different lusts wanting to take you over, sexual lust is one of them. Sexual lust can quietly eat up a person on the inside.
Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it springs the issues of life. Proverbs 4:23 NKJV
God says you should value and protect your spirit, your mind, your will and your emotions. These are the most important parts of your life. Let's have a look at what God has to say about lust, it will help to know the consequences that come as a result of these actions:
Lust Is Not Of God
But I say unto you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Matthew 5:28
Now these things became our examples, to the intent that we should not lust after evil things as they also lusted. And do not become idolaters as were some of them. As it is written, "The people sat down to eat and drink, and rose up to play." 1Cor 10:6,7
For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality. 1Thes 4:3
Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world -the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life-is not of the Father but is of the world 1John 2:15,16
We see from these scriptures that even though lust is evil, lust is in the world and since we live in the world we therefore need God's help not to submit to lust and other wrong desires.
The Outcome of Lust
Lust chokes the word of God of its power and ability to bring forth the victories God wants for all His children. Lust will promote defeat and God's anger. Lust makes the word of God unfruitful. Lust will starve a person's live of success.
Now these are the ones sown among thorns; they are the ones who hear the word, and the cares of the world, the deceitfulness of riches, and the desires of other things entering in and choke the word, and it becomes unfruitful. Mark 4:18,19
Lust wars against the soul, it seeks to bring your soul into submission, so that you become a slave to it, a person can get to the place where sexual lust becomes his/her master. Such a person will shun every consequence to fulfil the lust. When a person is willing to pay any price at all just to satisfy a sexual desire, even to the extent of disobeying God and bringing their family to shame you know lust has taken over.
Beloved, I beg you as sojourners and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lust which against the soul. 1Peter 2:11
There is a fight going on for the soul of man, which is why evil and sexual lust are some of the greatest enterprises now, through clubs, magazines, Internet pornography and prostitution, even what we call normal advert is full of lust.
Lust is a strong desire, you need to know that you cannot pursue every desire, and sexual lust is one of them, it will make you wrong God and that is too expensive a price to pay.
God wants you for Himself, He wants you totally sold out to Him, while the evil one wants to have you to himself and seeks to do this through sexual lust, he keeps deceiving and deceiving, replaying and emphasising wrong desires through everything around you so as to hold you captive.
The Father Of Lust
Satan is the father and source of all evil desires. He is doomed, hell is his portion and final judgement. He is trying very hard to lure as many people as possible through sexual lust to come with him into eternal destruction.
You are of your father the devil, and the desires of your father you want to do …he was a murderer from the beginning, and does stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. John 8:44
Lust is very deceptive, there is a note of pleasure attached to it, but really it is destructive. It destroys lives, families and marriages.
The devil is seriously looking for ways to do his work on the earth to kill, steal and to destroy. Lust kills, steals and destroys. This is something you definitely want to run away from.
The Dangers Of Sexual Lust
Victory Over Sexual Lust
Run to Jesus
Come to Me, all you who labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28
God is a compassionate and loving Father. He wants to see His children free and whole. He is willing to set the captive free and not watch them bound to sin. God loves man dearly, He knows about the captivity of sexual sin, which is why He sent Jesus. Rather than struggle along, live in shame and defeat run to Jesus.
Don't pretend to Him, nothing is hidden from Him, He knows about your every weakness, and beyond that He wants to forgive you, cleanse you, set you free and empower you to stand strong against all the tricks of the enemy. Don't run from God He wants your good, He desires to see you free.
He is not as angry as you think
God is not as angry as you have been made to think. His heart is yearning and hungering for every person who has strayed away into sexual lust to come back into His presence. The parable of the lost son in Matthew chapter 15 gives a true picture of what God would do to anyone who will humbly come back to Him.
As you realise yourself, no matter what has been lost, it is never too late to come back to Jesus. Do not suffer in silence and shame. Jesus is waiting with open arms to receive you, He wants you back home where you belong.
If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1John 1:8,9
God will heal your heart of unfaithfulness, as you trust Him, He will give you a brand new start. No matter what you've done He will forgive, heal and cleanse you.
Victory Over Lust
You have been saved from sexual lust.
For we ourselves were also once foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving various lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy and hating one another. But when the kindness and the love of God our Saviour toward God appeared, not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to His mercy He saved us, through the washing of regeneration and renewing of the Holy Spirit. Titus 3:3-5
Jesus died so that you may obtain and walk in victory over sexual lust. God wants to deliver you from the enemy that is stronger than you and who is seeking to destroy.
Stop Feeding Your Lust/Start Renewing Your Mind
Lust is gratified as you feed on things pertaining to lust. Prayerfully begin to resist those desires. Replace those desires with a desire after the word of God. Spend more time reading, listening and meditating on the word of God. The word of God is no ordinary thing, it is full of the Almighty power of God, which is able to save your soul from bondage to habits and vices. As you spend time in the word, your heart will be strengthened by the truth and when another day of temptation comes you will be able to fight for your soul.
I beseech you therefore brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. Romans 12:1,2
Renewing your mind is a process, you won't get there overnight, all you need is to be willing to walk with God to victory.
Look For A mature Person To Stand By You
As you submit your heart and desires to God, the next step involves you resisting the devil. You will need to fight, satan will come back to tempt you in the areas you used to serve him. This is the time to fight and resist him. The prayerful support of mature Christians and their encouragement are some the ways God equips you to win. Take advantage of this. Go to your Pastor, don't be shy, you will be glad you did. The Bible says, with good advice make war. He will show you how to use your weapons of warfare such as the Name of Jesus, the blood of Jesus, the covenant truth of righteousness.
Set New Boundaries
The fear of the Lord is beginning of Wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding. Proverbs 9:10
Do not be wise in your own eyes; Fear the Lord and depart from evil. It will be health to your flesh, and strength to your bones. Proverbs 3:7,8
You will need to stop watching some types of films and TV programmes, you know what defiles you so stay away from them.
It might be helpful to make a list of things you would need to stay away from and prayerfully plan to keep away from them.
Invite the Spirit of the fear of the Lord into your heart, begin to practice reverencing God and allow the fear of God to guide you in every step you take. Be obedient to the word of God and the voice of God in your heart. Joy will flood your life and God will restore all you have lost as you faithfully seek Him.
Guilt is a joy stealer, it will want to rob you of the wonderful future God has ahead of you. Use the Name of Jesus to defeat guilt, plead the blood of Jesus over every remembrance of your past that seeks to haunt you. Settle it in your heart that God has forgiven you and would never refer to it again under any circumstance.
The word of God declares in Romans chapter 8 and verse 1: There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.
You have no cause to regret as long as you are learning how to yield to the leading of the Spirit of God inside of you and you are practicing a life of obedience to God daily.
The stronger you get, you will come across people who are suffering as a result of bondage to sexual lust, help them or direct them to where you found help, JESUS.